For the woman who always puts everyone first
Detox FromPeople Pleasing
In just 2 nights, know how to put your God‑given
purpose first without losing the people you love.
One of the hardest things a woman will ever learn…
…is how to put God and her God‑given purpose first when everyone she loves expects to come first.
Especially when she genuinely loves those people.
Somewhere in you is a word God spoke.
A prophetic word. A calling you know you heard.
You’ve carried it for years.
You wanted to honor the people you love. You wanted their support. But somewhere along the way, their approval became something you needed before you could move forward.
So the word waited. Not because God went quiet — because someone you love needed you, and you couldn’t bear to disappoint them.
People pleasing doesn’t cancel what God said. It delays it.
a word
pleasing
The word didn’t die. It got delayed.
Here’s where the delay begins:
There’s a difference between asking for support and asking for permission.
Most of us were never shown where the line is.
Maybe you agree before considering what you can realistically give. You keep your needs quiet because someone else’s seem more important. Or you know what you want to say—but the thought of their disappointment changes your answer.
You can love your life and still be exhausted by the way you’ve been living it.
Gratitude does not require you to pretend something isn’t draining you.
And if you’re always the strong one—this is especially for you.
You are not broken.
You can honor men while celebrating women. You don’t have to choose. You can do both.
You can keep loving deeply while making room to receive.
The Detox From People Pleasing Was Created For Women Who Want to Put God First Without Abandoning Those They Love.
Waiting until you’re free enough to pursue your God‑given purpose is a sure way to postpone it indefinitely. The only question is whether you learn to hold both, or stay stuck feeling it’s impossible.
The Strong One
Everyone knows they can count on you. No one asks what you have left. You can love your life and still be exhausted by the way you’ve been living it.
The One Who Heard God
You know you heard Him. So why do you keep making yourself small? You don’t hesitate on the hard things. You hesitate on the things that would reveal you can hear God.
The One Who Says Yes to Everything
You spent years saying yes because no felt unloving. The fear of disappointing those you love competes with the destiny God placed on your life. Only one of them deserves to win.
The Wife With a Calling
You feel caught between what God is asking of you and what your husband expects. You can honor him and still answer God. You don’t have to choose.
The One Still Asking Permission
You call it support. But you can’t seem to move until someone else says it’s okay. Most of us were never shown where the line is.
The Leader Who Feels Powerless at Home
You’re certain of who you are in your career. Yet powerless in who you are as a woman. You are not broken. A pattern has been draining you.
If you found yourself in any of these, these two evenings were built for you.
The Detox From People Pleasing Framework
Two evenings. One surprise.
Each builds on the last.
Evening One names what has kept you small. Evening Two gives you the way through it. Then Dr. Tina shows you what comes next.
The result is not more striving.
It’s a way to love the people and keep the purpose.
From keeping everyone pleased
to responding with love
Picture the week after Evening Two:
You can disappoint people.
But you can’t miss your God‑given purpose.
Meet Dr. Tina & Helen
Dr. Tina Hay
Founder of Soul Detox & Co.®, faith‑based executive coach, ordained minister, and published author.
For 20 years, Dr. Tina has helped high‑capacity leaders heal what striving never could.
She understands the exhaustion from the inside.
At 4 a.m., behind her desk, she was pouring herself out as a woman, wife, mom, business owner, daughter, sister, and friend—giving to everyone but herself.
She met God, and everything changed.
Out of that encounter came Soul Detox®.
Now, she invites you to make room for the same honest examination:
What is driving your giving?
What is leaving you empty?
How can you move forward while loving others well?
Guest speaker
Helen Martens
Entrepreneur and mother of five.
Helen has lived every hour of the people pleasing this event names. She walked the journey from giving everyone her leftovers to leading and loving from overflow, and now she helps other women do the same.
She’ll be in the room both evenings.
Will there be an opportunity to continue afterward?
LeadHer
Yes. On the second evening, Dr. Tina will introduce an opportunity to continue working with her inside LeadHer. Joining is optional.
Experiences from her LeadHer community
Real Women. Real Results.
Real women, in their own words, from Dr. Tina’s events and community.
“For the first time in my life, I feel deeply at peace and fully empowered at the same time. I used to believe it was selfish or wrong to even WANT.”
“Everything has changed! I changed how I teach and how I show up every day… With God as my Father and friend, I’m learning to love who He created me to be.”
“I remind myself that freedom from my past and an abundant life aren’t about what I deserve. They’re about who God is.”
“I am no longer living as if I am on trial, because God Himself has declared who I am.”
“I hit a breaking point in my life and marriage, and I felt broken, scared, and alone. I said yes to Dr. Tina after a friend invited me to her free event, and that’s where my healing started.”
“It wasn’t just an event; it felt like finding my people. My tribe.”
“The dam cracked open and everything that was keeping me from being whole floated away. ‘IT IS FINISHED.’”
“I used to feel like my life was on pause, doing everything expected of me as a wife, mom, and homemaker… My dreams are coming back to life.”
“I’ve done a lot of coaching and programs, but I needed something rooted in a Christian perspective. Soul Detox feels different… it feels real and practical.”
“Every single session met me right where I was and gently called me to look deeper within.”
Before you decide, read this.
“I’m already so overwhelmed and tired. I can’t take on one more thing.”
This isn’t one more thing to do. It’s 90 minutes, two nights, from your couch.
Nothing to study. Nothing to practice. You come tired, and you leave lighter, because the first thing you’ll learn is what was never yours to carry.
“My family depends on me. I can’t step back.”
You won’t be asked to give less or to step back from the people you love.
You’ll be shown how to keep giving from fullness instead of from fear, so they get your best rather than what’s left.
“Is this compatible with my faith?”
Yes, plainly. God never asked you to run dry.
Nothing in these two evenings will ask you to turn against your husband, your family, your church, or your God.
We honor men while celebrating women. We don’t choose.
A few questions you may have
Is the event really free?
Yes. Registration includes both live sessions on Zoom and access to the recordings during the free replay window. No payment is required.
When and where does it happen?
November 11 and 12, from 7–8:30 p.m. Eastern Time each evening. You’ll attend live on Zoom from your phone or laptop. Your confirmation email will have the link.
Can I watch the recordings?
Yes. Free replay access ends November 13 at 7 p.m. ET. The 48‑hour access window begins when the event starts on November 11.
Is this only for married women?
No. The fear of disappointing others can affect family relationships, friendships, work, and ministry. You’re welcome whether you’re married, single, divorced, or widowed.
What if my current season already feels overwhelming?
Bring that reality with you.
Your next step may involve receiving support, making room for rest, or responding differently to an expectation.
The teaching will help you consider your responsibilities and capacity.
Will there be an opportunity to continue afterward?
Yes. On the second evening, Dr. Tina will introduce an opportunity to continue working with her inside LeadHer. Joining is optional.
People pleasing has delayed your God‑given purpose long enough.
Two live evenings with Dr. Tina. Leave knowing how to put your God‑given purpose first without losing the people you love.